Brenda E. Conway lived her life in the manner in which Christ taught. She was thankful for the life she lived and her happiness was evident in her kindness towards everyone she came in contact with.

Brenda like to shop and would spend hours roaming around stores seeking something to buy. She liked to wear bright colors and funny multi-colored or patterned socks.

She was not loud but a subtle person, friendly and the kind of person you could feel at ease being around. There was often a bowl of candy on her desk for people to snack on. Brenda was a good listener, never prying and always had a word of encouragement for those having troubles and sometimes good advice.You would think that her life was without troubles because she rarely complained. She was a very gentle person. On the few occasions that she was supposedly angry and chastising her children, I had to force myself not to laugh because she was so out of her character. All of her shouting was usually at church, singing hymns.

Danielle and Mandell, her daughter and son, were the second most important thing in her life. For them there was no sacrifice too much. She gave them the foundation they need to go forward without any animosity in thier hearts for those who so tragically took the life of the person they most valued. The signs of sadness and pain have disappeared from our children’s faces and now they smile and laugh a little again.

Brenda and I were married a little over sixteen years. We learned from each other and grew together. She knew how to be a mother and wife, without really working at it. Maybe she did work at it. Many nights she would stay up late, reading her Bible, preparing for a class she would teach. Brenda was a teacher also. She had a knack for solving problems. At 41 years, her ability to absorb new computer languages was amazing. She was the glue that kept this family together in harmony. I remember her saying to me that a couple should never go to bed if there is a problem between them, because tomorrow is not promised to you.

Russell Conway